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Living with Severe Lows of Depression: My Journey**


OMG, I Woke Up Crying


This morning was one of those days. I woke up with tears streaming down my face, crying about the life I had with my ex-husband. The weight of the past bore down on me, and I couldn’t help but wonder: *Why do I feel so sad?* Why does my mind cling to the trauma bonds that once tied me to someone who treated me so poorly? Why, when the man in my life now is an angel, do I feel like I don't deserve his love?


These questions swirled in my head, adding to the storm of emotions. I questioned myself, my worth, and the validity of my feelings. The grief, the sadness, the longing—it’s all so overwhelming, and yet it’s rooted in a relationship that caused me so much pain. So why, then, am I sad that he doesn’t want to love me anymore?


### **Understanding Trauma Bonds**


Trauma bonds form in abusive relationships where intermittent positive reinforcement, combined with abuse or neglect, creates a powerful emotional attachment. Even when the relationship ends, these bonds can linger, making it hard to move on. It’s common to feel sadness or even longing for someone who has hurt you because your mind and body are still trying to process the trauma.


Exercises to Help Heal Trauma Bonds


1. Journaling: Write down your feelings each day. Reflect on what triggers your sadness and what positive steps you can take to reclaim your sense of self.

2. Mindfulness Meditation: Practicing mindfulness can help you stay present and reduce the emotional power that past memories hold over you.

3. Physical Exercise: Engage in regular physical activity to boost your mood and alleviate stress. Yoga and cardio are especially good for this.


4. Self-Compassion Practice: Be kind to yourself. Remind yourself that it's okay to feel sad and that healing is a process. Speak to yourself as you would to a dear friend.


5. Positive Affirmations: Replace negative thoughts with affirmations. Tell yourself things like, "I deserve love and respect," and "I am worthy of happiness."


Helpful Videos and Resources


- Understanding Trauma Bonds: [Watch this video on understanding trauma bonds](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=video-link).

- Healing from Emotional Abuse: [This video provides insights on healing](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=video-link).


- Guided Meditation for Self-Love: [Try this guided meditation to cultivate self-love](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=video-link).


Final Thoughts


It’s okay to feel sad, even when you know someone wasn’t good for you. Healing from trauma bonds takes time, and it’s a journey of self-discovery and self-compassion. You’re not alone in this, and each step you take towards understanding and healing brings you closer to the peace you deserve.


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Raiysa Muhammad
Raiysa Muhammad
05 Eyl 2024

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